Is your online dating profile tired and uninspired?

April 10 – 30th, 2012

Special Prices for online profile writing:

$100 per profile for ok cupid, match.com, plenty of fish

Please write to:

patti@americasdatingcoach.com and I’ll write you a winning profile! I skype. It doesn’t matter where you live!!

While I went into this business to help daters and I was very aware of how many of you were out there that wanted help, I had NO idea how many people would have responded to this blog.

I don’t approve every single comment because it’s overwhelming to me. But I do want to say thank you very much for reading and posting. Even if some of you are doing it for other purposes. You’ve helped my site rankings tremendously and I feel I owe you a debt of gratitude.

If there is something you specifically want addressed, please write to me at patti@americasdatingcoach.com and I will do my best. My best stuff comes when I’m angry at a situation myself and can better be tuned into the idea.

Thanks again. It keeps me focused to know that so many of you understand and feel the same way.

All I can say is try for happy dating right now. Keep you chins up and you will eventually find happiness. Just remember one thing, having a person in your life is not always a good thing. We want to find good, solid, honest people that we can not only depend on to be there for us but that we feel a romantic connection with as well.

Why do I think about this person 24/7 when they aren’t even nice to me? How am I going to get them back? How am I going to get through the day. She sits right next to me at work? Does absence make the heart grow fonder? We were perfect for each other, look at the loser they’re dating.

Does this sound like you? Having trouble getting your soul back?

Many of us have been down this road. Hundreds of people have written to me about their break up’s. You just can’t stop. There’s something inside you that is aching to be with them and it can’t be for whatever reason.

And then, they call you out of the blue! There’s hope! No, there’s not. You’re getting mixed signals.

How many of you are out there? Step up, speak. I have a blog and will post your responses. There must be a support place for you. It’s right here. Write about your experiences and send them in. You won’t believe how many people are in the same shoes. They get it. They understand. You need to be here for each other so you don’t feel so alone. Bring on the comments, the stories, everything. We will form a community and in it, you will find so many people that will understand and you know what? You may even rid the demons that are haunting you. You may reclaim your soul.

OMG!!! I’m actually offended.

I have the mouth of a truck driver.
I’ll try anything and I mean ANYTHING once. (okay, no crack or other hard drugs) But everything else is more than fair game.
Dating is a bitch which is how I make my living. OKAY? And anyone that argues with that point is happily married and how many couples do you know that fall into THAT category?
I believe in plastic surgery!!!
I’m opinionated!!

Need I say more??????????

You my dear, the one that called ME boring probably sits in your house night after night looking for a good read on the internet and I didn’t meet YOUR expectations???

Please, go get a life.

How’s that for boring?????????

So now what? I’ve said this for years and after trying it myself, I know it’s true. Time to pick up some new hobbies and watch what happens. If you’re too busy for that, what about a new job where there’s a new pool of people to meet?

Two tips for you now that you’re back to normal. Keep the endorphines pumping because they put you in that good mood that people find irresistable and GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. Love is an accident just waiting to happen.

Go have a head on collision. Trust me, you’ll look back at your break up recovery time, not to mention the person that made you nuts in the first place and say to yourself, “what was I thinking?”

Sometimes this is good and sometimes this is very bad. In today’s world of technology, cupidsradar, the iphone, etc. it is close to impossible not to find someone.

And, it’s holiday season. If you have a friend that is just too busy to get in touch with you or you haven’t heard a word, as the book says, “He’s just not that into you.”

If it’s a friend and they haven’t reached out, it’s time to re-evaluate your friendship because with friends like that, you know the rest.

Hit the rinks, ladies. I’m not afraid to say my age and it’s almost 50. I’ve never met so many hockey players (my age) in my life!!!

Go for it, tis the season and while you’re working on your own dating, reach out and touch. Call an old friend, a relative you haven’t spoken to but be sure all of your friends have heard from you. It’s the only way to keep your network of people near you.

You’ve met everyone. All your online dating sites are used up, you’ve exhausted friends of friends and you don’t know where to turn. It’s time to try something new!

I have just learned about a new dating site called CUPIDS RADAR and it’s a great concept. I’m going to show my age now but there used to be a restaurant, I think it was Max and Erma’s where each table had a telephone so you could call someone at another table. This was a novel concept so strangers would call strangers just to try it out.

With today’s modern technology, Cupid’s Radar uses our cell phones, computer’s, etc. like a GPS system to let you know if there is a SINGLE person near you. It’s fun! To to www.cupidsradar.com and just check it out.

You’ve got to remember, if you sit at home and feel sorry for yourself, you’ll only meet your mailman or the pizza delivery guy. The site is free and it could be a fun adventure but if you’re really lucky……………..

Mr. or Mrs. Dreamy might be a block away and they would have gotten away just like Santa!

Merry Christmas and Happy Dating!

This weekend, I was at a trunk show. I wasn’t expecting this but I looked over and there was a painting of a little boy with his head down. I could feel the little boy. I wanted to walk through the painting and hug him because he felt so real to me.

I looked at the man who was standing next to the painting and said, “how much for the little boy?”

“He’s not for sale. That’s my son and I do his portrait every year.”

The painting had sung to me when I least expected it and what was worse. I couldn’t have the painting because it was too expensive for my pocketbook but it was also not for sale. Naturally, this made me want it more, right?

Earlier that same day, I had run into a woman. Her brother was in town for Thanksgiving and I was going to meet him the next morning. I went but he wasn’t there. He didn’t meet me because the night before he ACCIDENTALLY ran into his high school sweetheart and they ended up making kissy face on the couch that night. She’s 55 and he’s about 55. She lives in Chicago, he lives in Florida. He hasn’t been on a date in 10 years. He wasn’t looking at all. The woman is going down to Florida to visit him now and he’s coming to Chicago for Christmas!!!

I e-mailed the artist about the painting just to tell him how amazing I thought his work was and he was nice enough to write back. You see? You just never know what a moment will bring.

A man and a woman found love this week, I found a different kind of love when I went to a trunk show I didn’t even want to go to.

Each day is unexpected. Get out and do things, talk to people. It’s good for the soul and there were a few love connections on the way. All in a weeks worth of talking to strangers!!

As David Wygant would say, “ALWAYS TALK TO STRANGERS!”

For those of you interested in art, I found a magical artist today and luckily for Chicagoans, he works here. His website is www.michaelvanzeyl.com but it doesn’t do him justice.

He’s simply extraordinary. You see, even I can fall in love. There are all types of love to be found.

More on the way. I’m finishing out the year on a major networking mission to see how many new interesting people I can meet. Maybe you’ll join me.

Michael, if you’re reading this. I love you. You can tell your wife. I’m old enough to be your mother. I love that there is a man in Chicago that can express his feelings with no fear. Don’t we all want that?

Think about it.

If you’re a man wanting to meet and bond with a new woman where would you find her while showing off your new muscles? In her yoga class, in her water workout (that bathing suit).

If you’re a woman. What about the Thai Kwon Do class just to see if you can do it? Guess what, it’s just like pilates!

What if you don’t work out? Only two words, uh-oh, unless that’s just one word.

Stop. Think. Believe. While grounding yourself by learning yoga, you’re accomplishing three things at the same time. You are getting in shape, you’re grounding yourself and you’re meeting new people.

For those of you that already take yoga and need to meet a man, try a new class!! Exercise sends endorphines through your whole body which send out “pick me up” signals.

Ready, Set, Let the dating re-begin!!!

Are you or do you know someone who sounds like this? When you have recently left a relationship there is a healing process you must go through. If you don’t allow yourself this much needed time, you are doing yourself a disservice. Why? Because you’re in love with the idea or hooked on the adrenaline of pursuing or being pursued. This is not true love, this is a game. A tiring one at that.

Many clients come to me because they have not found love. They believe this is a bad thing and there might be something wrong with them. This is not true. What is true is they want a healthy and happy relationship which can only be achieved when they are patient enough to wait for the RIGHT person versus the adrenaline rush they achieve. If you find yourself or encounter a person who has been in love several times, red flags should be going up all over the place. How would it make you feel if you found you were one of many loves? Everyone is on a quest to find TRUE love. True love happens once in a while, not three times in ten years.

Lusting, loving and infatuation that occurs on very few occasions are the real ones, the ones to fight for and to keep. Dating is hard enough for most people, if it comes too easily to a person and you feel you have been swept off your feet, take another look. If you’re in a relationship just to be in one, take a harder look. It would be a shame to be in lust with a person and so hung up on them that when that true love really comes knocking at your door, you might miss the opportunity because you’re on the drug of love and end up quite lonely.

If any of you would like to weigh in, I would love to hear your stories.